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COMPLAIN MORE QUIETLY

If you are currently reading this, it means, first of all, that you have finished some schools, that you can read and that you can use modern technology. Also, that means that you have a roof over your head and a bed to sleep in. If you are reading this, it means that you have a computer or a smartphone. Or both. You also have access to the Internet, a paid bill and most likely a bit of extra money left after you pay all the expenses so that you can afford this little luxury. If you are reading this, it means you have time. Free time. At least a little. And that is a big luxury today… read more

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WHY NOT SAY „NO!“ SOMETIMES?

They say people become wiser with the passing of years, but being a crank myself, I realise the faster they slip away the less I know. They say you learn from other people’s mistakes, but I have to experience mine a couple of times before I even get to realise they were actually mistakes. It seems to me I do not learn anything with the passing of time, but that I actually unteach myself all the things I see other people do. Someone could say I am a rebel… read more

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LOVE IS A FEELING, BEING IN LOVE IS A DIAGNOSIS

Being in love is an acute, euphoric state of mind that is characterised by a changed perception of reality, mixed-up priorities and unfounded optimism of an individual. It is most frequently cured by banging your head against the wall, by breaking your heart and rubbing reality onto the patient’s nose. To those being in love, that is to say, to the sick, the difference between love and being in love should be explained as early as possible, to prevent… read more

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THOSE WHO ARE STRONG ARE NOT ASHAMED OF THEIR SCARS

I got the scar on my left ankle when I was five years old while I was playing hide and seek. I cut my leg on a broken beer bottle. My tendon showed. The one near the navel I got after an operation. Nothing serious. I survived. This one on the cheek – the one you cannot see with the naked eye – that’s from life. It slaps you sometimes. I’ve got used… read more

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SAY ONLY THE BEST ABOUT THE EXES

There isn’t a person on this planet who doesn’t have his or her ex. Ex-relationships, ex-friendships, ex-jobs, ex-cities. The main difference between ex-people and those who will always exist in our lives is that we ourselves consciously chose all our exes and life conferred upon us people for all times. For example, we did not choose our mother, father, our name, place of birth, but our partners and friends we did for sure, consciously… read more

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SPEAK YOUR MIND FREELY IF YOU DARE

When I have the money, I’ll be happy. When I have a stable relationship, I’ll feel fulfilled. When I have a good job, I’ll be at peace. This sort of perverted logic is typical of twisted minds because we are rarely told and hardly by anyone the truths such as: when you are happy in poverty, money will come later, when you feel fulfilled in your solitude, you will be in a relationship after that, when you… read more

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DON’T LIE TO YOUR KIDS YOU ARE STAYING IN A BAD MARRIAGE FOR THEIR SAKE

Tolerating a bad marriage for your kids’ sake is the same as bombing for peace or fucking for virginity. Impossible. Contradictory. I don’t get it, what could be so bad about a civilised divorce that has not already happened ten times worse in a bad marriage? It seems the problem is that, to Serbs, a civilised divorce has… read more

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YOU CHEAT BY WHAT’S IN YOUR PANTS, YOU BETRAY BY WHAT’S IN YOUR CHEST

The system we live in has tripped us up perfidiously and deviously ever since we learned to stand on our own feet. Fairy tales have created princes on white horses, gyms and fashion have imposed unattainable physical standards, porn movies have shaped insatiable appetites, television has promoted instant morality… Love is mentioned by only a few people, very rarely and so shyly that in such an atmosphere we have reached a point when… read more

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EMPLOYERS, LOYALTY IS NOT TO BE DEMANDED BUT EARNED

Feel free to call me by my last name as I do the same, at least until the moment we both come to the conclusion there is no need for that any more, since showing respect for someone’s integrity has nothing to do with their job title, level of education or age. Therefore, we call each other by our last names for the time being. For the sake of work, it is necessary to talk about everything, but in a civilised manner. You’d better leave your raised tone of voice for your… read more

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I DON’T KNOW WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE, BUT I DEFINITELY KNOW WHO ARE NOT

We have started to use the word Friend so casually, and I have a feeling we do not even understand it properly. We misuse it. We use it when flattering, calculating, kissing up to someone, bribing. We have started to downgrade it, stroke people’s egos with it, rub their low self-esteem the wrong way, stretch their shaky confidence to bursting point. And the word, baffled, still unaware of having been transformed from a cure into a weapon, screams silently and calls for old times. Your friends are definitely not those who keep nodding while you are talking, who say to you… read more

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LET GO OF THE PAST

Certain things, people and acts leave a scar that we carry through our lives… a bleeding scar. They cut deep through the softest flesh of our insecurity, they smash the strongest armature of our self-confidence with a mallet, set fire to all our suspicions dormant… read more

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WELCOME TO BELGRADE

Belgrade is an unusual city. It is neither more spectacular nor more beautiful than some other cities, but the most unusual one just because, although it has the word city in its name, it is least of all some kind of settlement with apartment buildings, streets and parks. Everyone living in it knows there is… read more

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LOVE WILL SAVE US

I do not think I am a pessimist. I consider myself more of a sworn optimist with a realist inside. That realist comes to the fore when I look around and see the way we act, the way we hate, raise our children, treat nature and I think… We are fucked. And then, out of nowhere, an optimist from the inside snarles out and makes me say this aloud to myself – Love will save us all… read more

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ALWAYS LOVE LIKE IT’S THE FIRST TIME, FUCK LIKE IT’S THE LAST

It is still deeply ingrained in the male psyche to divide women into several categories: mothers, sisters, wives and Others. Priorities are set in their minds almost in the same order. The truth is, women should not be categorised, just loved. Some men still stick to the rule, particularly during their dating period, that the other women are divided into those for… read more

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A CHILD IS NOT AN ASS FOR EVERYONE TO HAVE

I am a child of divorced parents. And an only child. Unfortunately. It was a sad marriage of two happy people. It was a family with a limp before it even started to walk. That family of mine was resuscitated by defibrillators from the state of coma and clinical death several times. Then, even more ill than before, it would continue to exist riddled with all sorts of malignant tumours. It suffered from distrust, vanity, poor communication, fear, stupidity, other people’s advice… read more

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IS THE BRIDE PREGNANT OR IS IT TRUE LOVE?

I had an opportunity to work as a wedding photographer. On average, it happens that every third bride is not pregnant. Those who happen to be pregnant almost invariably have an awful time of it. First their feet get swollen in high heels, then they have swollen joints wearing flats, their corset is too tight, the smell of incense makes them feel sick in the church, they struggle with long dresses… During that ordeal-like ceremony that lasts… read more

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I WISH YOU…

New Year’s Eve is a day just like any other. It is an ordinary night separated from dawn by alcohol. A bizarre night confused by our counting. A night scared by firecrackers, shivering with cold like a puppet behind a toilet seat. It is just another repeat of the same night, the same as its yesterday’s predecessor, and even more similar to its tomorrow’s successor. And New Year itself, baffled by us, oblivious of its uniqueness, suffers until dawn… read more

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I LOVE YOU SERBIA, BUT I LOVE MYSELF MORE

Serbia is a country people are leaving from. Here, cosmopolitans were long ago identified with traitors, gentlemen with the hen-pecked, the intelligent with nerds, the aspiring with the conceited. Then extreme nationalists, sexists, stupid ones and scumbags were given space to call themselves patriots, and the state became too narrow for the broad-minded, stifling for the generous, dark for seers. It is sad when there comes a day… read more

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UNBREAKABLE RELATIONSHIPS SUCK

Lately people who are not in a relationship have been all singing the same song of woe. Some of them sing soprano, others sing baritone, but they are all singing the same tune. The supply is of poor quality, those available are good for nothing, they are not able to find a normal person. Nobody is beautiful enough … read more

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A LETTER TO MYSELF

Dear Me,

How are You? Haven’t heard from You in a long time, even though I know You are here. Nearby. I haven’t written to You in a while, but I do think about You often, and now is the time. First of all, I owe You a sincere apology for not believing in You for the last quarter of a century, even though You have been my honest friend… Then I owe You an apology for being easily manipulated, for believing others more than You, for listening to those lies on the outside and silencing You while you were screaming … read more

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FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT

We live in a world in which a perfectly ironed shirt, a designer suit, trendy glasses and an expensive perfume can open many doors. If you know how to fake a smile despite the truth of a rotten tooth behind it, if you can throw in some foreign expression during a conversation even though you don’t know the grammar or the spelling of your mother tongue, if you casually… read more

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